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Michael Ryan on NPD
Sent to me Online
By Phil Elmore
In discussing my martial arts profiling guides with another online discussion
participant, I once wrote, “Nothing seems to get people more upset than
refusing to take them as seriously as they take themselves, I guess.”
Michael Ryan wrote to me to tell
me this:
I’m not sure if you’ve ever studied psychology, but the most prominent one
I’ve seen in the martial arts community is Narcissistic Personality
Disorder. In order to compensate for an inferiority, they have to imagine
huge ego-inflated perceptions of themselves and accomplishments, and anyone
who doesn’t believe in this “idealized self” that they’ve created
causes huge “narcissistic injury” to their ego, to use psychological
terms.So yes, in their minds, you Phil are an evil, evil person. A person with
NPD has a World that revolves around themselves, and as such, they believe
everyone else should revolve around them too. I know you’re a fan of rational
egoism, well this would irrational egoism. When John Nash proposed the Nash
Equilibrium, one of the key parts was that acting in self-interest meant
taking your own consideration and other people’s as well into consideration.
Unfortunately, in irrational egoism seen in NPD, the person doesn’t consider
other people, so they actually act against their self-interest by being so
self-centered. C’est la vie.Also, when speaking of people who are unskilled and unaware of it, my favorite
piece of research is this:“People tend to hold overly favorable views of their abilities in many
social and intellectual domains….This overestimation occurs, in part,
because people who are unskilled in these domains suffer a dual burden: Not
only do these people reach erroneous conclusions and make unfortunate choices,
but their incompetence robs them of the metacognitive ability to realize
it.”“Unskilled and Unaware of It: How Difficulties in Recognizing One’s Own
Incompetence Lead to Inflated Self-Assessments,” by Justin Kruger and
David Dunning, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology December 1999 Vol.
77, No. 6, 1121-1134.It’s available online at:
http://www.apa.org/journals/psp/psp7761121.htmlRead the article, it’ll sound as if they just wrote it for internet Tough-Guys
and Fraudulent instructors……According to the DSM-IV, (this is a short-hand abbreviation for the Diagnostic
and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fourth Edition, the
psychologist/psychiatrist Bible) Narcissistic Personality Disorder is
identifiable by five or more of the following characteristics: Has grandiose sense of
self-importance, (in fantasy or behavior), greatly exaggerates achievements
and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate
achievements. Is preoccupied with
fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love. Believes him/herself
to be special and unique, and can only be understood by a select elite as
equally worthy as he/she is. Has a strong sense of
self-entitlement, things should be unreasonably favor[able] towards them, and
automatic compliance with his/her expectations. Exhibitionist need for
attention Lacks empathy, and is
unwilling to identify with the needs of others. Is convinced others
are envious of him/her. Shows arrogant,
haughty behaviors and attitudes.
I think that shoe fits the right feet, no?